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This is one of my favorite 'zen' subjects. We make our own happiness. No one, no thing, can make you happy. It comes from within; it comes from acceptance of self. The way you react to a situation comes from you, not the fact that the book takes too long in coming, but from the anticipation of the wait. Anticipation is very 'unzen' as it is 'want', desire to control a situation that is beyond your control. Now if I could put this into practice I'd be a happier person.
As to purling...it's ALL knitting..part of the process. Love the yarn color!


I love this post! I struggle with this issue, and I readily admit that it gets the best of me often. I like to think of it as the difference between "having what you want", and "wanting what you already have". Or, as frequently happens, "getting my wants and needs mixed up".


Absolutely! to what you wrote and Margene and Lorette. I've made a lot of progress, but am still working on this issue.


There are plenty of people out there with tons of yarn and very little happiness.


Very thoughtful and thought-provoking post. I need to work on becoming more aware of my impact bias and empathy gap, and on strengthening my psychological immune system. This subject would make a good book; I was surprised to see that Gilbert hasn't written one on the subject. Another interesting insight is in the book "Paradox of Choice," which says that the more choices we have (for ex., a yarn shop with shelves overflowing with beautiful yarn), the more difficult it is to make a choice, and the less satisfied we are with the choice that we do make.


What a fascinating article. I do believe the Lincoln quote, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." I think it's really interesting that the researchers find themselves swept up in all the normal feelings, even though they know that the data says that it won't be nearly as important to their future happiness.

Hmmm. I want to print out the article and mull it over a bit more. Thanks for bringing up this great topic.


There are those flash moments of pure happiness, a sense that all's right in the world, and life is a glorious thing. Then there's the deeper sense of contentment; yes, I always would like a little more this or a little more that. But essentially, it's no big deal, because I'm content where I am, with who I am, and the people I'm with. I know not everyone can say that. I haven't always been able to say it. And there are things that could interrupt my contentment and send me into a spiral of misery. So maybe part of the secret to happiness is just remembering to bask in the best parts of life while you wait for the less wonderful stuff to blow over. Didn't mean to get ponderous here; thanks Laurie, for a thought-provoking post.


I followed Margene's link and am glad to get a chance to comment on this neverending food for thought topic; I love the times when I can just stare at a tree or be lost in my knitting or out on the water in a kayak and forget about needing anything to "make" me happy. It is taking years to not be identifying my happiness with things and acquisition, but simply with being. Sometimes, when things get really grim, it feels impossible to see that the unhappiness will pass and the happiness return, but gradually I have built up faith in this fact. I told my (adult) daughter last week that I think it might be necessary to be sad sometimes in order to more fully appreciate being full of bliss.

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